Pure? Nahhh

If I were to tell you of a man whose never been in a relationship, has yet to have a romantic date, is a virgin, doesn’t display affection often, refused to initiate sexual convos all but once, and has never kissed, would you believe that he really existed? Now let’s up the ante: What if this person was 22, from the hood but doesn’t engage in the likelihood of the stereotypes, blah, blah, blah. Well let me stop talking about myself. Yea, yea. Go ahead and pick up your jaw. Yes I said, “myself,” as in “me,” “moi,” DJ. 


Well there you have it. People like me do exist. When I told one of my female friends, Jojo, she was amazed.


“Im proud of u cuz u display the rare number of males that chose not to experience actual sexual involvement. That  amazes me u really take it all serious and aint nuthin wrong with that. Its a purifying feeling though for ur spirit im sure. Its very very rare to find any male that has never done anything at all.”


Ok, hold up Jojo. Before you go off calling me “pure” or any derivative like the other 3 people I’ve told (and now you all), there was an issue I struggled with until I got more educated in the Word last year. You ready for it? Masturbation.


1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 hit me like a brick. Years before running into this passage, I considered others’ arguments like, “Its not specifically written in the Bible,” or, “Onan was only punished because by spilling his seed, he orchestrated an uncustomary act in refusing to produce offspring for his deceased brother.” Well, both of these arguments may be true, but God still wants us to refrain from sexual immorality and to also learn to control our own body in a holy and honorable manner. Intercourse, masturbation, and lust fall under immoralities. 


“Well DJ, I’m not imagining anyone in my head while I’m doing it.”


You’re still wrong because you’re lusting after a sacred act that should be done between a husband and wife. Check this: would you do it if you saw God sitting right next you? Well He really is, being that He is ubiquitous. My issue first started when I was 14. I didn’t even want to do it but just hearing about it so much in school & tv  got me interested. Now, I didn’t have cable at home until I went off to college at 18. I didn’t have a working radio. I didn’t even have the internet at home until I was 15 and all the lustful things that I didn’t see on tv or hear on the radio were definitely there on the computer. Music videos, song lyrics, etc. Talk about fuel to the fire. It wasn’t until I got surrounded by a lot of these worldly things that I found myself losing self-control. 


So that’s the brief explanation of why I’m not as pure as some may think I am. The issue stated above is no longer an issue so you don’t have to worry about that. But I still have yet to be in a relationship and experience many “firsts” including kissing. And even if I do get into a relationship and still don’t do it, don’t fret. I love you so much as to treat you with a respect, grace, and specialty beyond others in accordance with God.